When was the last time you treated yourself with kindness?
When was the last time you gave yourself a hug?
When was the last time you told yourself “You are enough and I love you just the way you are”?
Has it been weeks, months, years or never?
Why do we treat ourselves this way?
When did it become okay to hate ourselves and treat ourselves with disgust and disdain?
And then we wonder:
- Why am I so unhappy?
- Why do I feel so lost and alone?
- Why do I have no energy or motivation?
When are we going to wake up to how the toxicity and negative thoughts we have about our self are affecting us?
When are we going to make a change to the way we treat our self?
How do we even start treating ourselves with kindness, compassion and love?
What do we do???
We become our best friend!!!
Think about how you treat your best friend.
- Is it with kindness?
- Is it with compassion?
- Is it with generosity?
- Is it with love?
Would you ever tell them:
- You look ugly and fat?
- I hate you?
- What is wrong with you?
- You are a horrible person?
- You can never get anything right?
- You are useless and worthless?
- You have no value?
- You are flawed?
- You are not enough just as you are?
Then why is it okay to speak to yourself this way?
Until we learn to love ourselves wholly and treat ourselves with kindness our life will never feel fulfilling.
So now that we have awoken to the way we treat our self, we can now consciously choose to treat ourselves better. We can embrace this new love for our self and start looking after our self like a dear friend.
If we are struggling with ideas on how to treat our self with kindness then can think about what we would do to help our best friend when they are feeling down, anxious, angry or lost and start showering ourselves with this love.
Being our best friend is also about letting go of judgment and not criticising or berating our self when we make a mistake. It’s saying to our selves “We are all human and we all make mistakes. Well done my best friend for making it this far!”
From this day forward we can make amends with the past and feel grateful for the lessons that we have learnt from those experiences and begin to live more present in the moment by acknowledge we are perfectly imperfect and deserve the best life has to offer.
Today we can set an intention to love our self just like Whitney Houston sang in The Greatest Love of All:
"I decided long ago never to walk in anyone's shadows.
If I fail, if I succeed at least I'll live as I believe.
No matter what they take from me they can't take away my dignity.
Because the greatest love of all is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all inside of me.
The greatest love of all is easy to achieve.
Learning to love yourself it is the greatest love of all."
Whitney Houston pioneered these lyrics to help us befriend ourselves, raise our vibration and accept the extraordinary qualities that we have to share with the world.
As life unfolds there will be times of exhaustion and toxicity but if we can befriend ourselves and consciously cull the unkind thoughts then this will make space for new, positive vibes which will lead to a feeling of lightness and wholeness.
As our new best friend we need to make sure we give our self the permission to look after our self through self care.
We can do this quickly by taking a mindfulness pause, where we stop, take a few deep breaths, check in to see how we are feeling and then acknowledge what we need to nourish ourselves.
Self-care needs to be a daily priority to ensure we are filling up our emotional love cup and sustaining an inner abundance so we don’t get depleted again.
As we become our best friend we can see with a new perspective, and we can learn to be patient and kind with ourselves and move throughout our day with ease and flow by choosing to do the things that restore and nourish our body and mind instead of putting energy into what drains and depletes us.
So what have you got to lose by becoming your best friend?